Today Helen and I ventured out to Rockaway Beach, New York's prettiest slice of the Atlantic Ocean. It was an epic subway ride, due to subway construction and the fact that we initially went the wrong direction on the Rockaways. But we eventually made it to the beach, and had a great time. Helen brought along our cute little surfboard, collected sea shells, and dug a big hole in the sand. I went "surfing" with her, held some of the shells, and read the Times.
Along the walk to the beach, we passed an African-American church that's run out of a converted house. It was around 1 PM, and it looked like the church was letting out and people were getting ready to eat together.
This reminded me an experience exactly ten years ago. One Sunday in July 1996, I attended an African-American church in Oxford, MS, and it remains a very fond memory.
This was the summer after my freshman year at Northwestern, and I was living with my Aunt Linda in Murfreesboro, TN. She's a practicing psychologist, and I was her receptionist for the summer. One weekend I decided to drive down to Oxford, to visit the birth place of William Faulkner. I didn't actually get there, but I did look around Ole Miss and pay a visit to Square Books.
Sitting in my motel room that Saturday night, I decided I wanted to go to church somewhere. This was on the cusp of the time when I changed from a fierce evangelical (it's true) into a horrified apostate.
I looked in the phone book (no laptop or in-room wi-fi available then) for area churches and called people up to get directions. I actually spoke to a white minister who encouraged me to come to his church.
But apparently I felt a need to go to a black church instead. If I go to church in Harlem next week, it would feel like a contrived gesture. There is something to be said for youthful idealism, which was the impetus for this decision.
On that Sunday I attended a church with 10-12 pews on either side of an aisle. It was a humble structure in a rough neighborhood. I sat next to a family, and one of the kids offered me some candy. One of the songs that week was about God's punctuality--"He's an on time God. Yes he is!"
I still recall the core of the sermon, ten years later, because the delivery was so good and the message so timeless. The scriptural passage was about the "widow's mite." Jesus praises a poor woman for giving everything she has, which is hardly anything, to the church. This is a greater gift than that of the rich folk in town, who give much more in monetary terms.
The minister used this passage as a meditation on the general importance of "little things." Smile at your wife when you head out to work. Slow down and smell the grass on a beautiful summer's day. When troubles happen in your relationships nip them in the bud, before the little things become big things.
This lesson is valuable for the firmest atheist, and is much easier said than done. I'm going to try to keep it toward the forefront of my mind.
After the sermon, a kindly man named Walter Spurlock came up and introduced himself. Then he brought me back to the church kitchen and invited me to have lunch. Not everyone was having lunch; this was a special invitation for me. It was so open-hearted that I was stunned. I politely declined, but in retrospect I should have accepted.
Maybe I shouldn't have been so surprised. Mr. Spurlock was just being mindful of the little things.
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