My step-father's birthday is coming up, followed by mine a few days later. Already, a close librarian friend has had a birthday. My brother's birthday is late this month, and two other friends are also completing one more trip around the sun.
It's easy to do the math--If March is for birthing, then June is for loving. Beyond that powerful observation, I'm thinking this year about how wildly adults diverge in their approach to birthdays.
Birthday parties are customary for children, if not obligatory. Go to any card shop, and there are colorful cards for every single year that the precious little one soldiers on. By the time you're an adult, greeting cards are either saccharine (woman to woman); sheepish (man to woman); dirty (man to man); or wistfully longing for youth (everyone).
But whatever cards you give and receive, what's fascinating is the different approaches people take to their special day. Some people make sure that you know about it, and look forward to a big bash. This must be the group that had the most fun when they were kids. I attempt to be discreet, but always let the date slip anyway. And some people guard their birth date very closely.
I often imagine throwing big parties for people I know who reach "milestones," but eventually realize that it's my definition of a milestone rather than theirs. So the birthday rolls by like normal, leaving me with a twinge of sadness at this small mark of childhood's passing.
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